Did you know that one of the most common fears is being alone? The bible literally says in Genesis 2:18 "Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.” or even in Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 "Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up!" According to scripture, we are meant to be with another. Often times we put timelines on our life, like we should be married by this age, have kids by that age, have a career by this time, etc. People often settle because of the fear of loneliness. We create our own timelines. BUT, you see, that is the beauty of life, we have absolutely no idea what our future holds.
As for me, it's actually kind of scary because I actually enjoy being alone......maybe a little too much. I'm extremely comfortable in my ways and in who I am. Obviously that happens as you get older- you find who you are and what you like, and you don't base your feelings off of others. It wasn't always that way though, there was a time when I was scared to be alone and start over. I doubted God's plan for my life, and wanted to create my own plans. Isn't it crazy how sometimes it is while in a relationship when you can feel the most alone? Obviously, I have talked about my past relationship on this blog before, dealing with heartbreak and dating an addict and all that good stuff. I explained how I gave every bit of myself to a person and then afterwards felt extremely lost and insecure.......and honestly that lasted for a couple years. I lacked self respect and allowed that person to be hurtful again and again for years because I loved too deeply. But in that time frame, I focused on being alone, and finding out why that was such a fear to me at the time, and why I allowed someone to continuously treat me that way. I wasn't even capable of dating after my relationship ended, mainly because I knew deep down that I couldn't feel deeply again for a long time. For three years, I focused on rebuilding who I was, what I liked, and reminded myself that if I were to love again, I would not choose someone out of loneliness or fear of being alone.
Basically, what I am trying to say is don't fear being alone. It is a beautiful thing to grow individually and understand your needs and wants. It is by no means easy, and it takes strength and courage. It varies for everyone, sometimes all you need a week, sometimes a month, other times a year, or if you are like me, maybe three years. But along the way the most important lesson I learned is that I have faith in God's plan for my life, the future is not something I can control. I learned that I don't need to depend on another to bring me validation. When two people come together in the right way, they respect each other, build and support each other. It is not a need, but rather a want.
Anyways. I'll leave you guys with one of my favorite quotes :
"Being alone doesn't mean that you are lonely, and being lonely doesn't mean that you are alone."
*Also, how cute is this set? It's so comfy and breathable - perfect for those over 100 degree days we'll be having for the next three months. I teamed up with Red Dress Boutique to show you some of my favorite summer looks. I can't wait for you to see some of my cruise looks! I've lined everything below!
Is anyone else weird about t-shirt fits? If it is a cheap t-shirt from Forever 21 or somewhere they always fit weird so I have to tie them in the center front. But if I am wanting a tee that I don't have to tie, they have to be long and have a little bit of drape to them. They can't be super see through or tight and they can't have really shirt sleeves. See what I mean when I say I am picky about them haha. This one is cute and comfy though! It is long - which obviously you can't tell because it's tucked in. Also, how cute is the design? I love the little kiss and a wink!
Top : Muse Apparel
Bottom / Shoes / Hat : Forever 21
"What we have received is not the spirit of the world, but the Spirit who is from God, so that we may understand what God has freely given us."
- 1 Corinthians 2:1212
Usually black is forbidden in Arizona during the summer, but it is still only in the low 100's , so you can get away with it. This dress is super lightweight, plus black hides any sweat haha so that's always a plus. I'm still crushing on all of the tropical print trends. I think i'm still on a high from my Havana themed What Matters fashion show in March. I'm also kind of weird about wearing black. I don't usually like to pair it with colors, but rather keep it neutral. Mainly because black and pink reminds me of middle school, black and yellow a bumblebee, black and red valentines day, black and orange halloween, etc. So usually I like to accessorize with black - if you can't tell by this outfit!
Dress : Muse Apparel
"And hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us."
I'm surprised I am able to type right now after todays workout. I can't feel my arms at the moment haha. My sister and I did about a million pushups! But our cruise is in about three weeks so we are getting our workout on like crazy. Fact: my family is reallllly fit. I've always been the one who is just a little bit thicker haha but my goal is to fit in with them for our family pictures! By the way, how cute is this jumpsuit? I went to this little pizza spot on Saturday night and one of the girls and a guy working there both complimented my outfit. The girl was telling me she didn't think she could pull off jumpsuits and I was like hold up whaaaat?? Jumpsuits are THE best. They are easy (only one article of clothing) and comfortable and can be worn both dressed up and casual. Obviously like most of my outfits recently, it is from Muse Apparel. So all you locals be sure to stop in there!
"Jesus answered, “Very truly I tell you, no one can enter the kingdom of God unless they are born of water and the Spirit."