Did you know that one of the most common fears is being alone? The bible literally says in Genesis 2:18 "Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.” or even in Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 "Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up!" According to scripture, we are meant to be with another. Often times we put timelines on our life, like we should be married by this age, have kids by that age, have a career by this time, etc. People often settle because of the fear of loneliness. We create our own timelines. BUT, you see, that is the beauty of life, we have absolutely no idea what our future holds.
As for me, it's actually kind of scary because I actually enjoy being alone......maybe a little too much. I'm extremely comfortable in my ways and in who I am. Obviously that happens as you get older- you find who you are and what you like, and you don't base your feelings off of others. It wasn't always that way though, there was a time when I was scared to be alone and start over. I doubted God's plan for my life, and wanted to create my own plans. Isn't it crazy how sometimes it is while in a relationship when you can feel the most alone? Obviously, I have talked about my past relationship on this blog before, dealing with heartbreak and dating an addict and all that good stuff. I explained how I gave every bit of myself to a person and then afterwards felt extremely lost and insecure.......and honestly that lasted for a couple years. I lacked self respect and allowed that person to be hurtful again and again for years because I loved too deeply. But in that time frame, I focused on being alone, and finding out why that was such a fear to me at the time, and why I allowed someone to continuously treat me that way. I wasn't even capable of dating after my relationship ended, mainly because I knew deep down that I couldn't feel deeply again for a long time. For three years, I focused on rebuilding who I was, what I liked, and reminded myself that if I were to love again, I would not choose someone out of loneliness or fear of being alone.
Basically, what I am trying to say is don't fear being alone. It is a beautiful thing to grow individually and understand your needs and wants. It is by no means easy, and it takes strength and courage. It varies for everyone, sometimes all you need a week, sometimes a month, other times a year, or if you are like me, maybe three years. But along the way the most important lesson I learned is that I have faith in God's plan for my life, the future is not something I can control. I learned that I don't need to depend on another to bring me validation. When two people come together in the right way, they respect each other, build and support each other. It is not a need, but rather a want.
Anyways. I'll leave you guys with one of my favorite quotes :
"Being alone doesn't mean that you are lonely, and being lonely doesn't mean that you are alone."
*Also, how cute is this set? It's so comfy and breathable - perfect for those over 100 degree days we'll be having for the next three months. I teamed up with Red Dress Boutique to show you some of my favorite summer looks. I can't wait for you to see some of my cruise looks! I've lined everything below!