So, I have been contemplating what my next encouragement post should be about. About a two weeks ago I had my first negative feedback on my blog. Charlotte Russe had posted a picture of my in a bodycon dress on their instagram page. Every time I get posted I get beyond excited, so I began to read some of the comments and I read two comments about me being fat. The first was "gut gut gut gut gut #iseeyogut" and the second claiming I was "too fat for this dress". Sweet Charlotte Russe had taken the comments down pretty quickly, but I had already seen them. It honestly made me laugh because I weigh 130lbs at 5'8. and I know I am nowhere near fat. Plus they hashtagged Iseeyogut. Ha ha I laughed out loud on that one. The comments didn't effect me because I was raised to have confidence in myself, but not all women // girls are like that. In fact, the people commenting rude things for no reason have no idea what battle someone is fighting. Hench the picture I chose. After that I knew what I wanted to write about. BEING KIND.
"Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you."
- - Ephesians 4:32
Have you ever sat back and really looked at the example Jesus Christ was? He knew beforehand not only that he would die, but that he would be rejected, betrayed, and condemned by his own people. The very people he served and preformed miracles on. Did you ever hear about him turning his back, or being rude, or harsh? Absolutely not. As he was being crucified on the cross he spoke the words "Forgive them father for they no not what they do." He was man. He suffered, struggled, and felt pain just as we all do. The night before he was crucified he went up to the Garden of Gethsemane to pray, telling God that this is not what he wants, but if it is God's will it will be done. Until the day the moment that he suffered death and joined his Father in heaven, he was kind to all. Never did he blame his people, or even disciples. In fact, Peter who denied him three times went on to become the first pope. He knew that Judas was going to betray him, yet he did not retaliate. Instead he Prayed. Just as we should.
"32 They came to a place named Gethsemane; and He said to His disciples, “Sit here until I have prayed.” 33 And He took with Him Peter and James and John, and began to be very distressed and troubled. 34 And He said to them, “My soul is deeply grieved to the point of death; remain here and keep watch.” 35 And He went a little beyond them, and fell to the ground and began to pray that if it were possible, the hour might pass Him by. 36 And He was saying, “Abba! Father! All things are possible for You; remove this cup from Me; yet not what I will, but what You will"
- - Mark 14 : 32-36
Let's put this into perspective. Although Jesus had mentioned it many times, nobody, not even his disciples, knew the troubles he was struggling with. More often than not, people hide what they are dealing with. Meaning the girls who commented calling me fat had no idea whether or not I had been struggling with an eating disorder (which I am not, just an example) or didn't feel good enough, or low self esteem. There is no reason whatsoever to put others down to feel better about yourself. Instead, the world would be a much better place if we could just encourage and uplift each other, but most importantly be genuinely happy to see other people doing well. There is one story that has really stuck with me throughout the years. In high school I was having a conversation with some friends and they were talking about another girl in our class. They said "seriously? she wore that shirt last week!" It was an eye opener for me to reevaluate who I hung out with. Who cares if someone wears something every single day in a row for that matter? Is it effecting your daily life? Absolutely not. Does it make you better than that person by pointing it out and laughing? Heck no! Do you know whether or not that is all her family could afford? No. From that day on I always think before I speak harsh words, because I never ever want to sound how those girls sounded. If you think something you will say is going to hurt or tear someone else down then keep from saying it. Instead pray to God to soften your heart and refrain from having a mean spirit. Life is not about what we can do for ourselves, but what we can do for others. It also goes both ways, if someone is being rude, hurtful or disrespectful to you then turn to God and give it all up to the Big man. He's got it all taken care of.
Romans says it best :
"We who are strong have an obligation to bear with the failings of the weak, and not to please ourselves. Let each of us please his neighbor for his good, to build him up. For Christ did not please himself, but as it is written, “The reproaches of those who reproached you fell on me.” For whatever was written in former days was written for our instruction, that through endurance and through the encouragement of the Scriptures we might have hope. May the God of endurance and encouragement grant you to live in such harmony with one another, in accord with Christ Jesus."
- - Romans 15:1-11